ESFJ + INTP

These two are opposites (no preferences in common). It takes two incredibly mature people who respect each other's differences to make this work. 

Historically, marriage counselors will see opposites marry and divorce and interestingly find the same opposite types to marry again (and sometimes divorce - again).  

There's always a yearning to "complete" one's self with an opposite type, but it doesn't do so without a long series of painful reckonings. Intimate relationships need a common ground for expression.

Have your crushes on each other, (and you will have them), but we suggest that you don't take it any further unless Birth Order or Astrological Harmony indicates otherwise.

Positives of an INTP-ESFJ Relationship:

Balance of Perspectives: INTPs bring a rational and objective perspective, while ESFJs bring empathy and emotional understanding. This can lead to well-rounded decisions and discussions.

Complementary Strengths: ESFJs are strong in areas where INTPs may struggle, such as organization and attention to detail, and vice versa. They can learn a lot from each other.

Mutual Respect for Individuality: Both ESFJs and INTPs value individuality and can respect and appreciate each other's unique viewpoints and ideas.

Challenges of an INTP-ESFJ Relationship:

Different Communication Styles: INTPs prefer to communicate in a logical and straightforward manner, while ESFJs often incorporate emotions into their communication, which can lead to misunderstandings.

Emotional Discrepancies: ESFJs are naturally more in touch with their emotions and the emotions of others than INTPs, who may struggle to understand the ESFJ's emotional needs.

Social Preferences: ESFJs are extroverted and enjoy social activities, whereas INTPs are introverted and may prefer more quiet time. These different preferences can lead to tension if not addressed.

To make a relationship between an INTP and an ESFJ work, both parties will need to communicate openly, understand each other's needs and preferences, and be willing to compromise when necessary. Remember, all individuals and relationships are unique, and personality type is just one factor among many that influence a relationship.