Jungian Compatibility  » ESTJ Compatibility


An excellent pairing though both want to be "top dog" in the relationship. They are similar (obviously), and they have the resources to resolve relationship issues with someone akin to them.

This pairing's foibles include jumping to conclusions and not always listening to opposing views in arguments. Power struggles may occur due to the strong-willed nature of both individuals. With their assertive personalities, both partners may have a desire to assert their own opinions and maintain control over certain aspects of the relationship. This can lead to conflicts and challenges in finding a balance of power and compromise. Open communication, mutual respect, and a willingness to listen to each other's perspectives can help address these power struggles and foster a healthier dynamic in the relationship.

Both being practical people, they can work through any problem and will likely take the same approach to do so (another plus).

Positives of an ESTJ-ESTJ Relationship:

Shared Values: Both partners will value efficiency, order, and rules. This shared worldview can lead to a harmonious relationship, where both partners have similar expectations and ways of handling things.

Clear Communication: Both ESTJs will appreciate straightforward and clear communication. They are likely to be honest and upfront about their needs and expectations, which can prevent misunderstandings.

Strong Work Ethic: Both partners are likely to be committed, responsible, and hardworking. They will both respect and understand the other's dedication to their work or commitments.

Challenges of an ESTJ-ESTJ Relationship:

Lack of Flexibility: Both partners can be inflexible and resist changes. This may lead to issues if they have different opinions about how things should be done and neither is willing to compromise.

Risk of Insensitivity: ESTJs can be blunt and may unintentionally hurt each other's feelings. They need to be careful to consider the other's feelings before speaking.

Competition: As both partners are typically ambitious and goal-oriented, there can be a risk of competitiveness between the two. They should remember to support each other's goals instead of seeing them as competition.

In conclusion, an ESTJ-ESTJ relationship can be mutually understanding and harmonious, with shared values and clear communication. However, potential challenges such as inflexibility, insensitivity, and competition need to be navigated carefully for the relationship to flourish.


Betty Baker M.A. Psych, M.Ed

About the Author

Betty Baker is an awarded marriage and family therapist and contributor to the internationally renowned PeaceBuilders® Program - a science-based, research-validated violence prevention curriculum and professional development program for grades pre-K to 12.