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Both INFPs and INFJs are introspective, idealistic, and deeply empathetic, creating an intense emotional and intellectual bond.

Conflict is rare between the two of you because you are both prone to put yourself in the other person's shoes. When problems arise, you approach them with compassion and empathy. You can often understand the other’s point of view and even if you don't agree with it, you'll try to accept your differences and return to harmonious equilibrium.

The INFP, a healer idealist, and the INFJ, a visionary developer, both approach life with a deep sense of integrity and a desire for authenticity in their relationships. They often find a shared language in their common values and ideals.

This relationship offers a lot of promise for a close and caring relationship. Many similarities exist in how you think about things and approach your lives. You both have a caring and idealistic temperament, and even if you disagree on some issues, you'll probably feel like you're on the same page when it comes to the basic essentials.

These two personality types share a focus on personal growth and development, which can foster a deeply supportive atmosphere. Both types appreciate and respect each other's space and individuality, allowing for a balanced and harmonious relationship.

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Positives of an INFP-INFJ Relationship:

Deep Connection: Both INFP and INFJ are capable of deep emotional and intellectual connections, leading to a profound understanding of each other.

Mutual Respect: Both types value authenticity and integrity, leading to mutual respect and admiration.

Supportive Atmosphere: With their shared focus on personal growth, INFPs and INFJs can create a nurturing and supportive environment.

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Challenges of an INFP-INFJ Relationship:

Sensitive Natures: Both types are highly sensitive and may have difficulty dealing with conflict or criticism.

Communication Differences: INFJs often express their feelings more openly than INFPs, which could lead to misunderstandings.

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While these are common dynamics found in INFP-INFJ relationships, it is important to remember that individual variations will occur. An individual's personal experiences, values, and level of personal development can greatly influence their relationships.

Despite these potential challenges, an INFP-INFJ relationship can be rewarding, nurturing, and deeply fulfilling with effective communication and mutual respect. 


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Betty Baker M.A. Psych, M.Ed

About the Author

Betty Baker is an awarded marriage and family therapist and contributor to the internationally renowned PeaceBuilders® Program - a science-based, research-validated violence prevention curriculum and professional development program for children, grades pre-K to 12.