INFJ + ESFP

This is a mediocre match if other favorable factors aren’t present.  The ESFP has trouble respecting the INFJ’s need for down-time and to think things through, plot and formulate his next move.  This is not easy for the social ESFP as he/she needs to vent/express/engage with someone about experiences most of the day.

On the plus side, both people take a very personal approach to life and their shared need to feel vulnerable with each other serves as the glue for their relationship.  Being Fs, both have a tendency to prioritize their relationships over outside distractions.

The INFJ needs to learn to be “in the moment” with the ESFP, look them in the eyes, give them more massages.  When the INFJ needs time to ponder something, they shouldn’t just disappear – let your partner know that you need time to think.