When two INFJs connect, they create an intensely deep and emotionally rich bond, filled with mutual understanding and shared values.

Both being INFJs, they share a common understanding of the world and tend to communicate on the same wavelength. This mutual understanding can lead to a deeply satisfying relationship filled with empathy, respect, and shared goals.

Having a relationship with someone of the same type can be utter bliss especially for INFJ’s who are truly unique (being 1% of the population). They’re highly intuitive – some to the point of being certifiably psychic. But, no matter how psychic or evolved one is, we all have imperfections and seeing those same imperfections in someone else can be annoying.

Being in love with someone of this same type means having to love one’s self – warts and all.

Positives of an INFJ-INFJ Relationship:

Deep Connection: Two INFJs can often form a connection that feels almost telepathic due to their shared intuitive nature and deep emotional understanding.

Shared Values: They tend to share similar values and goals, leading to a mutual respect and shared direction in life.

Empathetic Understanding: As both partners are empathetic and caring, they can provide a nurturing environment for each other to grow and feel understood.

Challenges of an INFJ-INFJ Relationship:

Avoidance of Conflict: Both INFJs may tend to avoid conflicts, which can lead to unresolved issues.

High Expectations: INFJs can have high expectations of themselves and others, which might create unnecessary pressure in the relationship.

These generalizations may not apply to all INFJ-INFJ relationships. Personal growth, life experiences, and maturity significantly affect relationship dynamics.

With understanding, communication, and a shared desire for personal growth, an INFJ-INFJ relationship can be profoundly deep, mutually satisfying, and fulfilling.


Betty Baker M.A. Psych, M.Ed

About the Author

Betty Baker is an awarded marriage and family therapist and contributor to the internationally renowned PeaceBuilders® Program - a science-based, research-validated violence prevention curriculum and professional development program for children, grades pre-K to 12.