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Though ENFP's and INTJ's share only one preference (iNtuition) in common, it is their dominant function and it significantly helps to bridge the gap of the differences between the two.

Both being N's, they share a well-developed imagination and an understanding of, and excitement for, the "big picture". This may not be enough for a long-lasting relationship, however.

While ENFP's are one of the most extroverted of extroverts, the INTJ personality is one of the most introverted. ENFP's must express their feelings often and seek validation of them through others while INTJ's simply aren't interested in frivolous things like feelings. The INTJ could, over time, begin to hate the daily emotional downloads from ENFP's. The ENFP could grow tired of INTJ's hermetic lifestyle.

This is one of those maybe/maybe not combinations that cannot be determined in the least bit by a simple psychology test. There is a chance for utter bliss, as there is with any combination of personalities - the predicted level of happiness depends on the extent to each is true to the extreme of their archetypes, maturity, and several other factors. If other factors (Astrology, or lust at first sight, etc.) come into play, then give this one a try.

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Positives of an INTJ-ENFP Relationship:

Intellectual and Intuitive Compatibility: Both INTJs and ENFPs have strong intuition and enjoy exploring abstract ideas, leading to profound and engaging conversations.

Balance of Thinking and Feeling: INTJs' logical approach balances ENFPs' emotional reasoning, which can result in well-rounded decision-making when the two cooperate.

Mutual Personal Growth: ENFPs can help INTJs to open up emotionally and to appreciate the positive aspects of life, while INTJs can help ENFPs develop their logical thinking and focus their energy more effectively.

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Challenges of an INTJ-ENFP Relationship:

Conflicting Social Needs: ENFPs are extroverted and tend to seek out social engagement, whereas INTJs are introverted and may need more private time. This difference can lead to misunderstandings and tension.

Difference in Structure: INTJs typically prefer structured and planned environments, while ENFPs are more spontaneous and adaptable, which might lead to disagreements around lifestyle and scheduling.

Emotional Expressiveness: INTJs might find ENFPs' emotional expressiveness overwhelming at times, while ENFPs may feel that INTJs are too reserved or detached.

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To make a relationship between an INTJ and an ENFP work, both parties will need to communicate openly, understand each other's needs and preferences, and be willing to compromise when necessary. Remember, all individuals and relationships are unique, and personality type is just one factor among many that influence a relationship.


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Betty Baker M.A. Psych, M.Ed

About the Author

Betty Baker is an awarded marriage and family therapist and contributor to the internationally renowned PeaceBuilders® Program - a science-based, research-validated violence prevention curriculum and professional development program for children, grades pre-K to 12.