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Sharing three of the four preferences makes this relationship run smoothly in many ways.

Of the two, the INTJ will be more introspective and theoretical. INTJ, being the most independent of all the types, most probably would not go along with all the ENTJ's demands. ENTJ's need someone with a temperament like INTJ's who tend to have a good sense of self. With some give and take and appreciation for their "alikeness" in most areas, this pairing works very well.

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Positives of an ENTJ-INTJ Relationship:

Intellectual Compatibility: Both ENTJs and INTJs highly value intellect and logic, which can lead to profound and stimulating discussions.

Mutual Understanding: Both personality types have an intuitive grasp of the world, which can lead to a mutual understanding and shared approach to life.

Common Goals: ENTJs and INTJs tend to have a goal-oriented mindset, and they can often bond over their shared drive and ambition.

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Challenges of an ENTJ-INTJ Relationship:

Different Energy Levels: ENTJs are extroverted and tend to seek out social interaction, whereas INTJs are introverted and may require more private time. This difference can create tension if not addressed.

Emotional Expression: Both ENTJs and INTJs can struggle with expressing their emotions, which could lead to misunderstandings or lack of emotional intimacy.

Power Struggles: Both personality types have strong wills and like to be in charge, which could lead to power struggles in the relationship.

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To make a relationship between an ENTJ and an INTJ work, both parties will need to communicate openly, understand each other's needs and preferences, and be willing to compromise when necessary. Remember, all individuals and relationships are unique, and personality type is just one factor among many that influence a relationship.


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Betty Baker M.A. Psych, M.Ed

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Betty Baker is an awarded marriage and family therapist and contributor to the internationally renowned PeaceBuilders® Program - a science-based, research-validated violence prevention curriculum and professional development program for children, grades pre-K to 12.