INTJ + ESFP

These two are opposites (no preferences in common). It takes two incredibly mature people who respect each other's differences to make this work. 

Historically, marriage counselors will see opposites marry and divorce and interestingly find the same opposite types to marry again (and sometimes divorce - again).  

There's always a yearning to "complete" one's self with an opposite type, but it doesn't do so without a long series of painful reckonings. Intimate relationships need a common ground for expression.

Have your crushes on each other, (and you will have them), but we suggest that you don't take it any further unless Birth Order or Astrological Harmony indicates otherwise.

Positives of an INTJ-ESFP Relationship:

Balance of Perspectives: INTJs tend to be focused on long-term goals and strategies, while ESFPs are more concerned with the here-and-now. This can create a well-rounded approach to both planning and action.

Shared Energy: Both types are energetic and action-oriented in their own ways. ESFPs can bring out the more spontaneous side of INTJs, while INTJs can help ESFPs structure their enthusiasm more effectively.

Complementary Strengths: INTJs can offer ESFPs valuable insights and objective judgments, while ESFPs can help INTJs become more in touch with their feelings and the feelings of others.

Challenges of an INTJ-ESFP Relationship:

Different Values: INTJs and ESFPs often value very different things in life, with INTJs being more focused on personal achievement and ESFPs being more focused on personal enjoyment. This can lead to misunderstandings and conflict if not addressed.

Planning vs. Spontaneity: INTJs typically like to plan for the future and adhere to schedules, while ESFPs prefer to live in the moment and can be quite spontaneous. This may cause disagreements over how to spend time and make decisions.

Communication Styles: INTJs are generally more reserved and may have trouble understanding the emotional and expressive communication style of ESFPs. This can lead to issues if not managed properly.

To make a relationship between an INTJ and an ESFP work, both parties will need to communicate openly, understand each other's needs and preferences, and be willing to compromise when necessary. Remember, all individuals and relationships are unique, and personality type is just one factor among many that influence a relationship.