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Even though you share the same personality type, there will still be differences in your personalities and values, which does not ensure a partnership without conflicts.

Fortunately, you are cerebral personalities who open your minds to new ideas, and in this case, have few miscommunications because you generally think the same way and often have a deep respect for each other.  Unfortunately, if either of you get too at ease in your introvert bubbles, you run the risk of alienating one another.

This is a highly harmonious match with lasting potential as long as there is reciprocal effort to communicate your thoughts and cope with daily duties and long-term financial planning (typically your weak spots).

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Positives of an INTP-INTP Relationship:

Intellectual Harmony: Both INTPs will find a strong intellectual connection, given their shared preference for logical, analytical thinking and thirst for knowledge. They are likely to enjoy deep, thought-provoking discussions together.

Shared Values: Being of the same type, INTPs share a similar outlook on life and an understanding of each other's motivations and desires, which can lead to a harmonious relationship dynamic.

Independence and Space: Both INTPs highly value personal freedom and independence. They are likely to understand and respect each other's need for personal space.

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Challenges of an INTP-INTP Relationship:

Lack of Emotional Expression: INTPs tend to struggle with expressing emotions, and this might lead to a lack of emotional intimacy or understanding in the relationship if both partners do not make conscious efforts to address their feelings.

Potential for Stagnation: Given their shared preference for introspection and solitude, they may unintentionally fall into routines that lack social activity, which can lead to a stagnant relationship over time.

Neglect of Practical Matters: INTPs are not naturally inclined to focus on everyday, practical matters. When both partners share this characteristic, certain practical aspects of life can be overlooked or neglected.

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To make a relationship between two INTPs work, both parties will need to communicate openly, understand each other's needs and preferences, and be willing to compromise when necessary. Remember, all individuals and relationships are unique, and personality type is just one factor among many that influence a relationship.


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Betty Baker M.A. Psych, M.Ed

About the Author

Betty Baker is an awarded marriage and family therapist and contributor to the internationally renowned PeaceBuilders® Program - a science-based, research-validated violence prevention curriculum and professional development program for children, grades pre-K to 12.