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Overall, this duo has the potential to form a deep and satisfying relationship.

You might think these highly sensitive people would have an easy time understanding each other because they share (I)ntroversion, (F)eeling and (J)udging, this is not necessarily so.

Even though they differ by one letter, they perceive the world in vastly different ways. The INFJ is the rarest type, while ISFJ is the second most common, and this one letter difference keeps them constantly guessing as to what the other is thinking and clashing when it comes to long-term planning and lifestyles. 

Fortunately, the similarities outweigh the differences, and these issues may be resolved with maturity and a willingness to understand one another's individuality. 

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Positives of an ISFJ-INFJ Relationship:

Deep Emotional Understanding: INFJs and ISFJs are both feelers and highly empathetic, fostering deep emotional bonds between them.

Shared Values: Both INFJs and ISFJs value harmony, stability, and commitment in their relationships, which can lead to a long-lasting, fulfilling relationship.

Mutual Support: Both personalities are supportive and nurturing, which can create a warm and caring environment for both partners.

Complementary Strengths: ISFJs' practicality can complement INFJs' idealistic vision, while INFJs' intuition can balance ISFJs' focus on the present.

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Challenges of an ISFJ-INFJ Relationship:

Different Outlooks: INFJs often look at the big picture and think about future possibilities, while ISFJs usually focus on details and practical matters. This difference can sometimes lead to disagreements.

Need for Alone Time: Both INFJs and ISFJs need some time alone to recharge, which can sometimes lead to misunderstandings if not communicated properly.

Sensitivity to Criticism: Both types are sensitive to criticism, which can lead to conflicts if they don't express their concerns in a sensitive and respectful manner.

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Remember, these descriptions are general and may not apply to every ISFJ-INFJ relationship.

Individuals within each type can vary greatly, and factors like personal growth, life experiences, and maturity also play a significant role in the success of a relationship.

In summary, an INFJ-ISFJ relationship can be deeply satisfying and harmonious. However, like any relationship, it requires understanding, acceptance, and effective communication to make it work. 


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Betty Baker M.A. Psych, M.Ed

About the Author

Betty Baker is an awarded marriage and family therapist and contributor to the internationally renowned PeaceBuilders® Program - a science-based, research-validated violence prevention curriculum and professional development program for children, grades pre-K to 12.