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Though you have a natural understanding of each other, being of the same type, in this case, is not a good thing.  When both people are of the same type, weaknesses become amplified and for ISTP’s, processing emotions are far down on their list of priorities – logic always comes before love.

Unless there are considerable harmonious contacts between your Venus and Moon, as shown in your Synastry reports, this match does not have the kind of sparks and glue to keep a romantic relationship alive for the long haul.

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Positives of an ISTP-ISTP Relationship:

Shared Temperament: ISTPs understand each other's need for space and independence. They are both introverts and are typically comfortable with silence or solitude, allowing for a relationship built on mutual respect and understanding.

Practical and Realistic: Being Sensing types, ISTPs are both practical, realistic, and detail-oriented. They live in the "here and now," which can lead to a well-grounded and straightforward relationship.

Flexible and Spontaneous: As Perceiving types, ISTPs value freedom and spontaneity, appreciating each other's need for flexibility and unpredictability.

Logical Problem Solving: Both being Thinking types, ISTPs approach problems logically and analytically. This mutual understanding can make problem-solving and decision-making efficient and straightforward.

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Challenges of an ISTP-ISTP Relationship:

Emotional Understanding: ISTPs are not naturally in tune with emotions, either their own or those of others. In a relationship where both partners share this characteristic, misunderstandings can arise, and emotional needs might go unmet.

Lack of Long-term Planning: ISTPs often live in the moment and may neglect to plan for the future. Two ISTPs in a relationship may struggle with long-term planning and decision making.

Similar Weaknesses: Because they share the same type, both ISTPs may have similar weaknesses, such as impatience or insensitivity. If not addressed, these shared weaknesses can create conflict and tension.

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While MBTI can provide a foundation to understand and predict certain behaviors or preferences in relationships, it is essential to remember that every individual is unique. Other factors such as personal growth, experiences, and values play a crucial role in shaping who we are and how we interact in relationships. Open communication, understanding, and respect are vital in any relationship, irrespective of personality types.

Keep in mind that understanding your partner's personality type and how it aligns with yours can be a tool to help navigate relationship dynamics, but it doesn't determine the outcome of the relationship.


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Betty Baker M.A. Psych, M.Ed

About the Author

Betty Baker is an awarded marriage and family therapist and contributor to the internationally renowned PeaceBuilders® Program - a science-based, research-validated violence prevention curriculum and professional development program for children, grades pre-K to 12.