Different ideas of romance and beauty. Learning each other’s love language takes effort but pays off.
A square means one person’s Venus and the other person’s Venus are about 90 degrees apart. The app counts it as challenging. What the labels mean.
What counts as love
With square Venuses, you each have a clear idea of what love looks like, and the ideas don’t match. One feels cared for by time and attention, and the other by things being done, or by touch, or by being told in so many words. It’s possible to give generously for years without quite getting through.
Taste can follow the same pattern. Your partner’s favorite restaurant leaves you cold, and your idea of a lovely room seems bare, or crowded, to them. These sound like small things until you’re choosing a home together.
Money and pleasure
Venus has a lot to do with what you value, so spending is a likely area for friction. One of you may think a good vacation is worth the money and the other may think a good sofa is. Neither is being irresponsible by their own lights, but each may see the other’s treats as waste. Keep a little money that each of you can spend without having to justify it, if your situation allows.
Learning a second language
The most useful thing you can do is get specific. “What would make you feel looked after this week?” is a far better question than guessing again. Then do the thing, even if it seems unromantic to you. Fixing the shelf can be a love letter, and it’s okay to learn to read it as one.
Take turns choosing, too, and go along with some good humor. You may never love their favorite film, but you can love watching them enjoy it. Over time, this aspect tends to give people a broader idea of what affection can be, which is useful in every relationship you’ll ever have.