Birth order

Your place among your siblings is one of the oldest ideas in pop psychology. Here’s each position as a set of tendencies worth talking about, not a rule.

  • FirstbornWhy firstborns are often organized, driven and quick to take charge, what a close-in-age second sibling changes, and how eldest children do in love.
  • Middle childMiddle children often grow up diplomatic, loyal and a little guarded. What shapes them, the competitive second child, and how middles fare with others.
  • Youngest childYoungest children are often seen as charming, funny and adventurous. Where that comes from, what partners notice, and how youngests pair with others.
  • Only childOnly children often mix eldest-child drive with youngest-child charm. What growing up among adults does, the myths, and how onlies pair with others.
  • TwinsTwins grow up with a built-in companion. How that shapes intimacy, independence and dating, what partners of twins notice, and where siblings fit in.

Start with the overview

  • Birth order and relationshipsWhy people bring up birth order on dates, what research says, and how to use it as a conversation. The app doesn’t use it in compatibility scores.