What a chart doesn’t contain
Take any two birth charts and look at what’s missing. They don’t say whether either person is honest. They don’t say whether someone is kind to waiters, ready to settle down, in debt, grieving, or still in love with an ex. They don’t know how your parents argued or what you’ve learned since. Nearly everything that decides how a relationship goes isn’t written there.
Consider also what a chart can’t distinguish. Two people born in the same hospital, a few minutes apart, have nearly identical charts. They’ll go on to have different lives, different partners and different luck. Whatever a chart describes, it plainly leaves a lot of room.
What a score is
Each pair gets a number between 0 and 100, with a label that runs from Exploring to Cosmic Match. It’s a calculation: it adds up the aspects between two charts, and it can’t tell you anything about the two people beyond that. A high score means your charts have a lot of harmonious contacts. It doesn’t mean this person is good for you.
A low one doesn’t mean anyone should stay away. People meet someone labeled Exploring and build a lovely life. Others meet a Cosmic Match and find out by the third date that they have nothing to say to each other. Both are ordinary outcomes.
So why use it at all?
Because it gives you useful questions. Being told that your Moon squares someone’s Mars doesn’t predict a fight. It does suggest you might ask, “What do you do when you’re angry, and what do you need when you’re upset?” You could ask that with no astrology at all, but most of us don’t, and a chart gives you a playful reason to.
It also offers a language for differences that doesn’t blame anyone. “We have a Mercury square” is easier to say than “you never listen.” You can laugh about it and then have the conversation.
And people find it fun. That’s a perfectly good reason. Many people enjoy astrology without being sure it describes anything real, and you’re welcome to be one of them. These pages take it seriously as a way of reflecting, and we don’t claim any more than that.
Using a chart well
A few habits help:
- Treat what you read as a question, then check it against the person. If the chart says they’re direct and they’ve been evasive for a month, believe the month.
- Don’t use a chart to rule out someone you like, or to keep someone you shouldn’t. Good aspects don’t make up for how you’re being treated.
- Don’t explain away hurtful behavior with astrology. If someone frightens you, controls you or hurts you, that’s the fact that matters, and no placement changes it. Our safety page is a place to start for people you’ve met through the app.
- Don’t let it stand in for professional help. A chart isn’t medical, legal, financial or relationship advice.
If that all sounds like a lot of disclaimers for an astrology company, it’s because we’d like you to enjoy this for a long time. Start with what synastry is and take what’s useful.