No one’s holding the leash
Fire and air, a sextile apart. Both are future-minded and hate being told what to do, so they can often skip the tiresome early stage of proving you won’t smother anybody. Sagittarius has the enthusiasm and Aquarius has the odd, original idea. Together they’re at home in a crowd, at a march, on a long train, or on a sofa with six tabs open debating something neither will remember tomorrow.
Friendship is often the base of it. Plenty of couples like this describe each other first as the most interesting person they know.
When being cool costs you
Because both value independence so highly, each can be embarrassed to need anything. Someone gets laid off or a parent dies, and they say they’re fine, and the other, respectfully, believes them. Long stretches can pass with lots of ideas and few feelings.
Their conflict style has its own trouble. Sagittarius blurts and moves on. Aquarius is stubborn, and when they’ve decided something’s a matter of principle, it stays decided. Sagittarius may call that cold. Aquarius may call Sagittarius careless. Then each goes off to see their friends, and nothing gets settled.
An unfashionable idea: checking in
Ask directly. “Are you really okay, or are you being cool about this?” Promise that the answer won’t be used to mock you later. Treat commitments as chosen and not imposed: you can decide together what your version looks like, and you don’t have to borrow anyone else’s. A set of very unusual agreements is fine, so long as you’ve both really agreed to them.
This pair’s charts will often show where tenderness lives, if any. Moon contacts matter, as does a Venus in a warmer sign. Venus sextile Mars shows one way a friendship can stay flirtatious.