Two people who like a good problem
This pair doesn’t share an element and they sit at an awkward angle, so they don’t often fall into each other’s arms. What they tend to do instead is fall into conversation. Both are thinkers who’d rather be useful than be flattered, and both are a little outside the ordinary. Virgo has real respect for Aquarius’s original mind. Aquarius finds Virgo’s accuracy quietly dazzling, particularly when it catches a flaw in a theory everyone else let slide.
Principles and socks
Their standing dispute is about scale. Aquarius will give an entire weekend to a neighborhood cause, and leave wet towels on the bed. Virgo, who sees those towels, starts to wonder how someone can care so much about everybody and so little about the person they live with. Aquarius, for their part, can find Virgo’s focus on the small things narrow and a bit controlling.
Both can also go cool when hurt. Virgo gets busy, and Aquarius gets abstract. You can have two people in a kitchen discussing the principle of what happened, with nobody actually saying “that hurt my feelings.”
Coming down to the same room
Find a project that needs both scales. A community garden, an actual campaign, or a house that needs some imagination and also needs a working boiler. They’re at their best side by side with something to do.
Then practice the plain sentences: “I missed you.” “I felt left out.” Neither sign reaches for those first. Aquarius might remember that for Virgo a chore done without asking counts as a declaration, and Virgo might notice that when Aquarius shares a half-finished idea, that’s how they let you in.
The Sun signs show you a meeting of minds, and not much about the body or the heart. Look to the Venus and Mars contacts for that, such as Venus trine Mars, to see whether there’s a warmth you can rely on.