Guarding your own
Scorpio’s willpower and Cancer’s need for security point in the same direction, toward looking after those you love and lead. You’re self-reliant, you don’t go out of your way for strangers, and people often read you as mysterious or a little aloof. You can also be demanding, and sharp when things aren’t right. But your instinct about people is very good. You go by gut feeling much more than by the facts on the table, and you’d rather dig under the surface than take anyone at their word.
When love brings up the past
You’ve got a deep need to give and get emotional support, which puts relationships at the very center of your life. You’re sensual, affectionate and romantic. Once you feel secure, there may be no more devoted or magnetic partner to be found, and you often sense what someone wants before they say it.
Because you’re so sentimental and your memory’s so long, old stories can get into the room with you. Without meaning to, you might try to re-create some early feeling of being completely looked after, or try to get back at someone for an old disappointment that this person had nothing to do with. Your partner can end up feeling like your parent one day and your child the next. Your attentiveness can then become oppressive, and you may start managing them through guilt or mood.
This same single-mindedness does great things at work, though. If it’s getting too much at home, it might be time for a big project.
What helps
Notice the moments when your reaction seems much bigger than what’s just happened, and ask how old the feeling is. A therapist or a very trusted friend can be a good person to sort through that with, since it’s a lot for one partner to hold. Ask your partner what they need, instead of guessing and delivering it. And take a person’s wish for freedom as a wish for freedom, not a verdict on how much they love you.