Caring is the language
You tend to show love by feeding, tending and remembering. You keep the ticket stubs. You mark anniversaries that no one else would count. You feel drawn to people who are close to their family or their old friends, or who at least understand why those ties matter, since family for you may be the one you were born into or the one you’ve built.
Attraction often arrives once you feel safe. A person can be gorgeous and clever, but if they make you feel on guard, you’ll stay politely behind glass. The one who notices you’ve gone quiet and asks about it gets through.
Hints, moods and old hurts
You can read a room quickly, so you may expect others to read you too. When they don’t, the hurt is real, and you might go silent and wait to be asked. A careless remark can stay with you for days, and it may surface long afterwards in an argument about something else.
Holding on can also become clutching. If love means keeping someone close, then a partner’s night out might feel like a small abandonment, even if you know it isn’t. Try saying the plain sentence: “I’d like you to ask me how I am.” It feels terribly exposed the first time. People tend to respond better to it than to a sigh.
And check that the care goes both ways. Looking after someone who never looks after you is tiring, however natural it feels.
What makes you feel loved
Being included in someone’s real life: meeting their people, getting a key, hearing “come over, I made too much soup”. If you’re dating this placement, a home-cooked meal or a long talk on the sofa will go further than an expensive restaurant, and remembering a small thing they told you will go furthest of all.