Love without edges
You tend to feel what your partner feels, sometimes before they do. A change in someone’s breathing can tell you the day went badly. You look for a connection that goes beyond the practical, with someone who’ll sit in silence with you, or who cares about the same song the way you do. Music, art, the sea and anything else that makes people go quiet may be part of how you fall in love.
Your kindness is real and wide. You see the best in people, including what’s possible for them and what they could be if only someone believed in them.
Loving the person who’s actually there
The hazard is falling for the possibility. You may fill in the blanks with something lovelier than the facts, then feel crushed when the real human turns up. It can help to ask a trusted friend what they see, and to pay attention to what someone does as well as how they make you feel.
Giving can run away with you, too. It’s easy to give up your plans, your money and your opinions, and you might mistake that for love. If you’re always the one who forgives, or if you’re rescuing someone over and over, it’s fair to ask what you’re getting. Compassion doesn’t mean putting up with being mistreated. You can care about someone’s pain and still leave, and if someone’s hurting or frightening you, your safety comes first.
When things get hard, you might drift away into daydreams, sleep or a screen. Staying in the room for a difficult conversation, even for ten minutes, tends to do more than a week of wondering what they meant.
What moves them
An evening at the theater, a walk through a botanical garden, a playlist made with care, or a long talk with nothing held back. Be gentle with criticism and honest about what you mean. They feel loved when someone notices the feelings they haven’t said aloud, and then looks after them in return.