Jungian Compatibility  » ENFP Compatibility


These two are naturally friendly and flexible, giving them a wide circle of friends.

Both are especially spontaneous and don’t like to plan too far in advance or feel particularly committed to plans that they do make.

Because neither type enjoys having anybody under their control, control issues are unlikely to arise with this pairing.

Eventually, one of the two must assume control of a task, making the other feel inferior. Because both are generally tolerant of one another, open communication should prevent these control concerns.

Positives of an ESTP-ENFP Relationship:

Shared Extraversion: Both ESTPs and ENFPs are extroverted, meaning they enjoy socializing and engaging with the external world. They'll likely find joy in shared activities, and they can energize each other with their enthusiasm.

Complementary Skills: ESTPs are pragmatic and focus on the present, while ENFPs are visionary and future-oriented. This combination can provide balance, with the ESTP helping to ground the ENFP's ideas in practical reality.

Mutual Openness to New Experiences: Both ESTPs and ENFPs are open to new experiences and enjoy exploring new ideas and possibilities. They can encourage each other's adventurous spirit and enjoy a relationship full of novelty and spontaneity.

Challenges of an ESTP-ENFP Relationship:

Differing Needs for Emotional Intimacy: ENFPs often desire deep emotional connection and open conversation about feelings, while ESTPs may be more comfortable dealing with concrete facts and might struggle with expressing their emotions.

Potential for Miscommunication: ENFPs are intuitive and read between the lines, while ESTPs are direct and say what they mean. Misunderstandings may arise if the ENFP overinterprets the ESTP's straightforward comments.

Different Approach to Commitment: ENFPs tend to think about long-term possibilities and commit when they see a future with someone, while ESTPs live in the present and might be reluctant to plan too far ahead. This could cause tension when discussing the future of the relationship.

In conclusion, an ESTP-ENFP relationship offers the potential for a dynamic, enthusiastic, and adventurous partnership. However, it also has potential challenges relating to emotional intimacy, communication style, and long-term commitment. Understanding and appreciating each other's differences can help this pairing navigate these potential challenges.


Betty Baker M.A. Psych, M.Ed

About the Author

Betty Baker is an awarded marriage and family therapist and contributor to the internationally renowned PeaceBuilders® Program - a science-based, research-validated violence prevention curriculum and professional development program for grades pre-K to 12.