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ESTP: Promoting Engager: Seeker of Action



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The ESTP Personality Profile

ESTP: Promoting Engager: Seeker of Action





Energized by their external world.

Focuses on facts and reality.

Decides with objectivity and logic.

Wants things left open and flexible.

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ESTP Relatable Quotes

"A good solution applied with vigor now is better than a perfect solution applied ten minutes later."

– General George S. Patton

"We need to do things; not to talk about them."

– Franklin D. Roosevelt

"In order to write about life, you must first live it!"

– Ernest Hemmingway

"I try to learn from the past, but I plan for the future by focusing exclusively on the present. That's where the fun is."

– U.S. President Donald Trump

"Enthusiasm, backed up by horse sense and persistence, is the quality that most frequently makes for success."

– Dale Carnegie


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Adventurous: You're free-spirited, action-oriented and always seeking out new experiences, cultures, and people.

DrivenYou enjoy high-energy, high-stress occupations that involve endurance and strength – an entrepreneurial spirit.

Bold: You’re a risk-taker who thrives on negotiating and testing yourself in make-or-break situations.

Spontaneous: Both ESTP’s and ESFP’s are most focused on the present moment – always ready for any kind of incoming, unexpected event.

Resourceful: You have the ability to absorb and remember a large number of facts. When faced with a circumstance that necessitates resourcefulness, you employ your agility and adaptability to find the most effective path to completing whatever task is at hand.

Hands-on: You'd rather DO something than read about it being done by others. You enjoy hands-on experience and prefer it when expectations are reasonable and work explanations are clear... (This does not imply that you will adhere to the regulations to the letter.) You're adaptable and spontaneous, and you don't let rules and processes get in the way of finding actual solutions or achieving your goals. It's not that you're a "cheater" of the system; rather, you see effective paths to success that others don't see.

Charismatic: ESTP’s are famously lively, entertaining, and usually, lots of fun to be around.  You use your keen powers of observation to assess your audiences and adapt quickly to keep interactions exciting.

Gregarious: Curious, charming, and popular - you're outgoing, versatile, and have a good supply of jokes and stories for whatever situation you find yourself in.

Sociable: You like(d) school because it gives/gave you a place to meet friends and to be involved in activities, and were likely on a sports team or other after-school activities.

Quick Thinker: You excel at making fast decisions under pressure, using intuition and logic to navigate challenging situations effectively.

Persuasive: You are naturally gifted in communication, able to convince and inspire others to support your ideas or follow your lead.

Competitive: You thrive in environments where you can measure your success against others, constantly striving for personal improvement and achievement.

Practical: You value real-world solutions over theoretical concepts, preferring tangible results and practical applications of knowledge.

Empathetic: You possess a strong understanding of others' emotions and motivations, using this insight to build rapport and navigate social dynamics.

Resilient: You are able to bounce back from setbacks or disappointments, maintaining a positive outlook and determination to succeed.

Independent: You are comfortable taking the initiative and working autonomously, confident in your abilities to achieve goals without constant supervision or guidance.

Curious: You are a lifelong learner, always seeking to expand your knowledge and understanding through exploration and discovery.


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Challenges and Growth Opportunities

While your innate strengths as an ESTP bring you success in various aspects of life, there are also challenges you may face and growth opportunities you can explore to become an even more effective and well-rounded individual:

Long-Term Planning: Don't over-rely on improvisation. Develop a plan of action.  As an ESTP, you're excellent at thinking on your feet and responding to the moment, but you might struggle with long-term planning and future-oriented goals. Developing these skills can help you navigate life more effectively and achieve greater success in your endeavors.

Emotional Intelligence: Try to curb being so blunt and direct. Think about others' feelings.  While your practical and pragmatic approach is often appreciated, you may find it challenging to deal with complex emotional situations or deeply introspective individuals. Improving your emotional intelligence can help you better understand others' feelings and perspectives, enhancing your interpersonal relationships.

Patience: Your preference for action and immediate results can sometimes make you impatient with slower processes or more contemplative individuals. Cultivating patience can help you work more effectively with a diverse range of people and situations.

Listening Skills: As a naturally outgoing and expressive individual, you may sometimes overlook the importance of actively listening to others. Improving your listening skills can lead to better understanding, empathy, and collaboration with those around you.

Work-Life Balance: Your adventurous spirit and desire for excitement can sometimes lead to neglecting routine tasks or long-term commitments. Striving for a healthy work-life balance that includes routine and stability, along with excitement and adventure, can help you maintain your well-being and ensure your life is fulfilling in the long run.


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ESTP in Relationships

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Action-oriented: As an ESTP, you thrive on excitement and new experiences. You appreciate partners who are open to spontaneity, adventure, and trying new things together.

Straightforward communication: You value open and direct communication in your relationships. You appreciate partners who can be honest and straightforward with their thoughts and feelings, without beating around the bush.

Independence: You need your personal space and freedom to explore new interests and opportunities. You appreciate partners who understand and respect your need for autonomy, without being overly possessive or controlling.

Problem-solving: As a natural problem-solver, you enjoy working together with your partner to tackle challenges and find solutions. You appreciate partners who can think on their feet and collaborate effectively in difficult situations.

Adaptable: You're highly adaptable and can easily adjust to new circumstances. In relationships, you appreciate partners who can go with the flow and embrace change alongside you.

Emotional growth: While you may sometimes struggle with processing and expressing your emotions, you can develop emotional intelligence over time. You may need a partner who is patient and can help you navigate your emotions and learn to communicate more effectively about your feelings.

Pragmatic support: As an ESTP, you tend to provide practical support to your partner in times of need. You appreciate partners who can reciprocate and assist you with real-world solutions when you face challenges.

Playful humor: Your playful and often sarcastic sense of humor can be both entertaining and endearing to your partner. You appreciate partners who can keep up with your wit and engage in lighthearted banter.

Balance of socializing and intimacy: You enjoy socializing and connecting with others, but also value quality one-on-one time with your partner. You appreciate partners who can strike a balance between enjoying a vibrant social life and nurturing your relationship through private, intimate moments.

Appreciation for the present moment: You have a natural ability to live in the present and make the most of each moment. You appreciate partners who can embrace this mindset and enjoy life's experiences with you without getting caught up in unnecessary worries about the future.

Loyalty and trust: You appreciate partners who can demonstrate their commitment and stand by your side through thick and thin, while also trusting you to do the same for them.

Openness to constructive feedback: You tend to be receptive to constructive criticism and appreciate partners who can offer you honest feedback to help you grow and improve, both as an individual and within the relationship.


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a heart iconESTP's Love Languages:

 Quality TimeActs of Service and Physical Touch. 

Love languages are the ways in which people express and receive affection from others. They help us understand how to communicate love more effectively and meet each other's emotional needs. The five love languages include Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch.

According to a Survey conducted by Heidi Priebe, the top 3 (primary) Love Language choices for ESTP are Quality Time (30.77%) and Acts of Service (26.92%), and Physical Touch (23.08%).


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a heart iconQuality Time (30.77%)

Quality Time holds great importance for ESTPs as well. They value their independence but also enjoy spending meaningful moments with their loved ones. Engaging in shared activities or hobbies, trying out new experiences, or simply having a lively conversation can create lasting memories for ESTPs. They feel most connected to their partners when they invest time and energy in building a strong foundation of shared adventures and mutual understanding.


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a heart iconActs of Service (26.92%)

ESTPs tend to show their love through actions as well as words. They are spontaneous and adventurous, so Acts of Service are a natural expression of their affection. Whether it's planning a surprise outing, helping with an unexpected task, or finding creative ways to make their partner's life easier, ESTPs are happiest when they can assist their loved ones in practical ways. They take pride in being resourceful and adaptable and appreciate when their efforts are acknowledged and valued.


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a heart iconPhysical Touch (23.08%)

Physical Touch is another essential love language for ESTPs. They may seem bold and outgoing, but when it comes to their relationships, they treasure the closeness and connection that comes from affectionate physical interactions. Playful touches, warm embraces, long cuddles on the couch, or simply holding hands can create an intimate bond between ESTPs and their partners. They appreciate a partner who understands the importance of these tender moments and reciprocates their affection.


ESTP Dating Ideas

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ESTPs often enjoy action-packed and adventurous dates, such as outdoor activities, sports, and live events that keep the adrenaline flowing.

  • Go-kart racing or paintball: Indulge in adrenaline-pumping activities like go-kart racing or paintball, appealing to the ESTP's love for action, excitement, and friendly competition.
  • Adventure sports: Dive into adventure sports like rock climbing, surfing, or ziplining, satisfying the ESTP's thrill-seeking nature and affinity for physical challenges.
  • Escape room challenge: Test your wits and teamwork in an escape room, igniting the ESTP's problem-solving skills and passion for hands-on experiences.
  • Scavenger hunt or geocaching: Embark on a scavenger hunt or geocaching adventure, tapping into the ESTP's resourcefulness and spontaneous spirit while exploring new locations.
  • Cooking competition or food challenge: Engage in a cooking competition or food challenge, combining the ESTP's love for culinary experiences with their competitive side.
  • Local sports event: Attend a local sports event, immersing yourselves in the energetic atmosphere while bonding over a shared passion for the game.
  • Road trip or spontaneous weekend getaway: Set off on a road trip or spontaneous weekend getaway, appealing to the ESTP's love for freedom, exploration, and living in the moment.
  • Open mic or karaoke night: Showcase your talents at an open mic or karaoke night, indulging the ESTP's playful nature and penchant for the spotlight.
  • DIY workshop or hands-on class: Attend a DIY workshop or hands-on class, allowing the ESTP to learn a new skill and express their creativity in a practical way.
  • Urban exploration: Discover hidden gems and offbeat spots in your city, fueling the ESTP's adventurous spirit and curiosity for new experiences.


 a collage of public figures depicted to be the INFJ Personality Type:Donald Trump, Ryan Seacrest, Glenn Close, Angelina Jolie, Ben Affleck, Thomas Edison  Winston Churchill, Madonna, Malcom X, Jack Nicholson, Mila Kunis, George S. Patton  Meryl Streep, Zooey Deschanel, Chloe Grace, Judi Dench, Miley Cyrus, Theodore Roosevelt

Famous people believed to be ESTP (Depicted above):

Donald Trump, Ryan Seacrest, Glenn Close, Angelina Jolie, Ben Affleck, Thomas Edison

Winston Churchill, Madonna, Malcom X, Jack Nicholson, Mila Kunis, George S. Patton

Meryl Streep, Zooey Deschanel, Chloe Grace, Judi Dench, Miley Cyrus, Theodore Roosevelt


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Betty Baker M.A. Psych, M.Ed

About the Author

Betty Baker is an awarded marriage and family therapist and contributor to the internationally renowned PeaceBuilders® Program - a science-based, research-validated violence prevention curriculum and professional development program for children, grades pre-K to 12.