The First and Only pairing can be as volatile as First/First and Only/Only parings if each person is as highly competitive and critical as their archetype describes.
The good news is that both have a tendency to be productive and enjoy not having to deal with the other not doing their fair share. The downside is that First Borns and Only’s are rarely afraid to dish criticism to ones they love, but unironically, they are often more sensitive than most when receiving a curt word or two. Great care should be taken when criticizing the other because you are both probably good at delivering stings that are especially difficult to heal from.
Note: There are many successful relationships between First Borns and Only’s. It works when they recognize their likeness and allow for the likenesses and relinquish control over some areas of life they are used to controlling for themselves. Dividing up chores and their ilk and having faith that the other will succeed are the types of steps couples can make to build trust in the other’s judgment and mitigate anxiety in each other's lives overall.
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About the Author Betty Baker is an awarded marriage and family therapist and contributor to the internationally renowned PeaceBuilders® Program - a science-based, research-validated violence prevention curriculum and professional development program for children, grades pre-K to 12. |
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