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ENFJ: Visionary Advisor: Seeker of the Ideal

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ENFJ Personality Profile

ENFJ: Visionary Advisor





Energized by their external world.

Focuses on visions and possibilities.

Decides according to personal values.

Wants things settled and decided.

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ENFJ Relatable Quotes

 "I always try and give as much as I can, rather than get as much as I can."

Kate Winslet

 "You create your own reality by the way you think and therefore act.

You cannot blame ... your circumstances, because you are not your circumstances.

You are your possibilities."

Oprah Winfrey

"The desire to reach the stars is ambitious. The desire to reach hearts is wise and most possible."

– Maya Angelou

"I'm a teacher, I'm a convener, I'm a gatherer. I'm someone who reaches out to people and is deeply interested in what they have to say."

– Justin Trudeau

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Compassionate Leader: As an ENFJ, you have a natural inclination to guide and mentor others, using your empathetic nature and interpersonal skills to inspire and bring out the best in people.

Charismatic Presence: With your warm, engaging, and articulate personality, you easily draw others to you and create meaningful connections and relationships.

Altruistic: You are driven by a genuine desire to help and support others, often putting their needs above your own to make a positive impact on their lives.

Harmony Seeker: You strive to create an environment of understanding and cooperation, using your diplomatic skills to resolve conflicts and foster unity among individuals.

Visionary: You possess a strong sense of purpose and direction, often setting lofty goals for yourself and inspiring others to join you in achieving them.

Empathetic Communicator: Your exceptional ability to sense and understand others' feelings allows you to communicate effectively and compassionately, making you an exceptional listener and advisor.

Organized Planner: As an ENFJ, you excel at creating detailed plans and strategies, enabling you to effectively manage your time, resources, and efforts to achieve your goals and help others reach their potential.

Loyal Advocate: You are fiercely devoted to your friends, family, and causes you believe in, standing by their side and championing their needs with unwavering support and encouragement.

Creative Problem Solver: Your innovative mindset and ability to see the big picture allows you to devise original solutions to challenges, often approaching issues from unique angles that others may not consider.

Inclusive Approach: You excel at fostering a sense of belonging within groups, embracing diversity and actively involving others in decision-making processes to ensure everyone feels valued and heard.

Growth-Oriented: As an ENFJ, you are constantly seeking self-improvement and personal growth, encouraging not only yourself but also those around you to learn, evolve, and become the best versions of themselves.

Perceptive: Your keen intuition and ability to read between the lines enable you to understand complex situations and relationships, allowing you to navigate them with insight and wisdom.

Encouraging Mentor: Your natural talent for teaching and guiding others, combined with your empathetic nature, makes you an excellent mentor, helping individuals grow and develop their skills and talents.


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Challenges and Growth Opportunities

Stop pleasing everyone: As an ENFJ, you often strive to make everyone around you happy, sometimes at the expense of your own needs. Remember, it's okay to say no sometimes and prioritize your own well-being.

Embrace solitude: You thrive on social interactions and tend to avoid being alone. Try to appreciate the value of solitude; it can provide opportunities for self-reflection and personal growth.

Balancing idealism with reality: You have a clear vision of what you want the world to be like, which can lead to disappointment when reality doesn't meet your expectations. Try to balance your idealistic nature with an acceptance of the world as it is.

Assertiveness: Your preference for harmony can sometimes lead you to suppress your own needs and opinions. Developing assertiveness skills can help you express your needs and set boundaries while still maintaining your caring nature.

Facing Conflict: Conflict can be uncomfortable for you, as you strive for harmony and seek to avoid confrontation. However, learning to address conflicts directly and constructively can strengthen your relationships in the long run.

Delegating responsibilities: As an ENFJ, you tend to take on too many responsibilities, believing that you need to do everything yourself. Learn to delegate tasks to others, fostering trust and building a stronger support network.

Self-Care: You often dedicate yourself to the needs of others, sometimes neglecting your own self-care. Recognize the importance of taking time for yourself, setting aside moments for relaxation, pursuing hobbies, and maintaining a healthy work-life balance.

Expressing personal emotions: You're excellent at understanding and caring for the emotions of others, but sometimes struggle with acknowledging and expressing your own. Don't be afraid to share your feelings and seek support when needed. Remember, it's okay not to be okay all the time.


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ENFJ in Relationships

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Emotional connection: As an ENFJ, you value deep emotional connections in your relationships. You appreciate partners who can engage with you on an emotional level, sharing their feelings openly and honestly.

Open communication: You value open, honest communication and appreciate partners who are willing to discuss their thoughts and feelings without holding back.

Encouragement of individuality: You have a strong sense of individuality and appreciate partners who support your unique interests, ideas, and pursuits. You also respect your partner's individuality and encourage them to be true to themselves.

Support and acts of service: Your caring and helpful nature means you're always looking for ways to support your loved ones. You appreciate partners who are open to offering acts of service and providing support, creating a nurturing environment for both of you to thrive.

Affection and validation: You often express your love through words of affirmation and acts of service. You appreciate partners who can provide you with affection and validation, helping you feel secure and loved.

Flexibility: Your compassionate and understanding nature means you are willing to adjust to the needs of your partner. You appreciate partners who are flexible and can adapt to changes in plans or unexpected situations.

Support for personal growth: Personal growth and self-improvement are essential to you as an ENFJ. You appreciate partners who support and encourage your personal development, as well as their own.

Balance of independence and togetherness: While you enjoy close connections with your partner, you also value your independence. You appreciate partners who can strike a balance between spending quality time together and allowing each other the space to pursue individual interests.

Emotional intelligence: You have a natural ability to empathize with others and navigate complex emotions. You appreciate partners who can match your emotional intelligence and engage in emotionally rich conversations.

Shared values and vision: You value having a shared vision for the future and common values with your partner. You appreciate partners who align with your core beliefs and can work together with you towards achieving your dreams and aspirations.

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a heart iconENFJ's Love Languages:

 Quality TimeWords of Affirmationand Physical Touch.

Love languages are the ways in which people express and receive affection from others. They help us understand how to communicate love more effectively and meet each other's emotional needs. The five love languages include Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch.

According to a Survey conducted by Heidi Priebe, the top 3 (primary) Love Language choices for ENFJs are Quality Time (32.28%), Words of Affirmation (31.5%), and Physical Touch (21.26%).


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a heart iconQuality Time (32.28%)

ENFJs are often characterized by their deep empathy and genuine interest in others. They have a natural inclination to understand and nurture the feelings and well-being of those close to them.

Quality time as a primary love language resonates with ENFJs as it allows them to express their caring nature and connect deeply with their loved ones.

They value the mutual sharing of thoughts, feelings, and experiences, which helps them feel closer and more in tune with their partners.


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a heart iconWords of Affirmation (31.5%)

ENFJs are typically very communicative and expressive. They appreciate verbal expressions of love and tend to respond positively to compliments, words of appreciation, and verbal encouragement.

These affirmations serve as a validation of their efforts and make them feel loved and valued. They also tend to use words to express their own feelings, making this love language a natural choice.


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a heart iconPhysical Touch (21.26%)

ENFJs are typically very affectionate and responsive to physical expressions of love. They often use touch as a way to connect with others on an emotional level.

A hug, a kiss, or a simple touch on the arm can mean a lot to an ENFJ, as they view these physical expressions as a direct way to show love and care.

They are also likely to use physical touch to provide comfort and reassurance to their loved ones, further emphasizing their empathetic nature.


ENFJ Date Ideas

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  • Explore a local farmer's market: Stroll through a local farmer's market, discovering fresh produce and artisanal goods while supporting local businesses and fostering a sense of community.
  • Wine tasting or craft beer tour: Embark on a wine tasting or craft beer tour, providing a relaxed and convivial atmosphere to bond and learn about the art of winemaking or brewing.
  • Scenic bike ride or rollerblading: Enjoy a scenic bike ride or rollerblading adventure, taking in beautiful surroundings while engaging in an invigorating physical activity together.
  • Cooking or baking class for couples: Sign up for a couples' cooking or baking class, collaborating on culinary creations while fostering teamwork and deepening your connection.
  • DIY craft night at home: Organize a DIY craft night at home, letting your creativity flow as you work on personalized projects, share inspiration, and create lasting memories together.
  • Charity event or fundraiser: Attend a charity event or fundraiser, appealing to the ENFJ's compassionate nature and desire to make a positive impact on their community.
  • Themed dinner party or potluck: Host or attend a themed dinner party or potluck, allowing the ENFJ to connect with others in a warm, nurturing atmosphere while showcasing their culinary skills.
  • Cultural or art festival: Immerse yourselves in a cultural or art festival, experiencing the beauty and diversity of artistic expression and connecting with others who share your interests.
  • Nature hike or botanical garden visit: Connect with nature on a hike or by visiting a botanical garden, offering a tranquil setting for introspection, bonding, and emotional connection.
  • Game night with friends: Host a game night with friends, tapping into the ENFJ's love for socializing, team-building, and creating lasting memories with the people they care about.


a collage of public figures depicted to be the INFJ Personality Type : Emma Stone, Maya Angelou, Morgan Freeman, Bradley Cooper, Sheryl Sandberg, Joe Biden  Nelson Mandela, Neil deGrasse Tyson, Reese Witherspoon, Oprah, Rashida Jones, Charlie Rose  Justin Trudeau, Bono, Kate Winslet, Robert Herjavec, Nigella Lawson, Martin Luther King Jr.

Famous people believed to be ENFJ (Depicted above):

Emma StoneMaya AngelouMorgan FreemanBradley CooperSheryl SandbergJoe Biden

Nelson MandelaNeil deGrasse TysonReese WitherspoonOprahRashida JonesCharlie Rose

Justin TrudeauBonoKate WinsletRobert HerjavecNigella LawsonMartin Luther King Jr. 


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Betty Baker M.A. Psych, M.Ed

About the Author

Betty Baker is an awarded marriage and family therapist and contributor to the internationally renowned PeaceBuilders® Program - a science-based, research-validated violence prevention curriculum and professional development program for children, grades pre-K to 12.