ENFJ + INTJ

This can be a successful couple if both are willing to accept the other for who they are.

Here we have a (F)eeler and a (T)hinker, an (I)ntrovert and an (E)xtrovert. Even though they both share a common preference for innovation, creativity, organization and completion, the frustrations surrounding this coupling can be great.

Above all, ENFJs are loving, affectionate people who crave emotional connection in their relationships, including plenty of opportunity to discuss their feelings. The INTJ personality is the second-most autonomous and private personality type in the bunch and requires a lot of alone time to think, reflect, etc.

INTJ's are super-logical and are more focused on feeding their intellectual appetites and advancing their careers than validating feelings for their partners. INTJ's treat arguments as stimulating intellectual games, however, ENFJs view these same conflicts as aggressive, unpleasant, and depleting of energy.

ENFJ's are great conversationalists while INTJ's loathe small talk and won't happily engage in conversation unless they find the subject matter personally compelling.  ENFJ’s enjoy weekend adventures while INTJ’s are very happy staying at home and binge-watching Netflix.

Compromise and a willingness to grow are key to the success of this pairing.

Positives of an INTJ-ENFJ Relationship:

Shared Intuition: Both INTJs and ENFJs are intuitive types who appreciate and understand complex ideas and theories. They can share a deep and meaningful intellectual connection.

Complementary Strengths: INTJs bring a logical and strategic mindset, while ENFJs bring empathy and a focus on emotional well-being. These differences can be complementary and enriching if appreciated correctly.

Mutual Growth: Both types can learn from each other. INTJs can teach ENFJs to be more analytical and independent, while ENFJs can help INTJs be more in touch with their own and others' feelings.

Challenges of an INTJ-ENFJ Relationship:

Emotional Disconnect: INTJs can sometimes struggle with expressing their emotions, which could be challenging for the emotionally in-tune ENFJ. This might lead to misunderstandings or feelings of being unappreciated.

Different Social Needs: ENFJs usually enjoy a broad and active social life, while INTJs are typically more introverted and need a lot of private time. This difference can create tension if not addressed.

Planning vs. Adaptability: INTJs prefer to plan ahead and may become frustrated by the ENFJ's inclination to be flexible and adapt plans as they go along.

To make a relationship between an INTJ and an ENFJ work, both parties will need to communicate openly, understand each other's needs and preferences, and be willing to compromise when necessary. Remember, all individuals and relationships are unique, and personality type is just one factor among many that influence a relationship.