First and Middle

a person in the lotus position denoting harmony between a First Born and Middle Child romantic pairing

First + Middle



First Borns do well with Middles as long as the Middle isn’t a “Challenging Second Born”. 

These two complement each other well; Middle children can allow First Borns to take charge and are likely to agree to any adventures or activities that the First Born would like to engage in.

The Middle needs consistent reassurance that they are loved, the First has the capacity to fulfill that need. In return, the First will enjoy a contented relationship with the peacekeeping Middle.




Betty Baker M.A. Psych, M.Ed

About the Author

Betty Baker is an awarded marriage and family therapist and contributor to the internationally renowned PeaceBuilders® Program - a science-based, research-validated violence prevention curriculum and professional development program for children, grades pre-K to 12.